By- Jamson Guite –
Tuailai thumal hilhchetna –
Merriam Webster Dictionary dungzui in TUAILAI (youth) tuh –
Mi kuahiam tuailai hun (The time of life when someone is young)
Mi Piching hihma hun (The time when a young person has not yet become an adult).
Bang hiamkhat athaklai hun leh a akilamkhiak ma hun (The time when something is new and not yet established).
Tuailai hilhchetna apan lel in leng tuailai hun toh kisai ah theih diing leh zil diing tampi om hi.
I tuailai hun tuh –
I tuailai hun tuh “banghiam a thaklai hun” chih ahih toh kiton in i hinkhua a i hatlaitak ahi. Sialtal a ki leh bil kikim laitak toh kibang ahi. David sanggamte’n a naupa uh David milian Goliath dou dia a kisak lai in “nang mi kihaimuan” (1 Samuel 17:28) a chih bang un i tuailai hun tuh i hatlaitak leh i kimuan laitak ahi.
I tuailai hun tuh i manphat laitak leng ahi (Eccl. 12:1; Lev. 27:3).
Hun nuam leh kipah hun ahi (Eccl. 11:9).
Pilvang tak a hun zat poimoh hun leng ahi.
Bangziak a pilvangtak a hinkhua zat hun chi i hiam?
I gamtatdan leh thilhihte zang a vaihawm a om diing ihih ziak in (Eccl. 11:9b). Bangziak a i tuailai hun a pilvan kul hiam i chih leh bang hiam a thaklai hun leh a kilamzohma hun ahih ziak ahi. I tuailai hun tuh inn bawl laitaik toh kibang ahi. I bawllai in bel deihdan in kibawl thei a, bawlkhit chiang in bel i bawldandan toh lungkim a ngaita hi.
(b) Lungtang a gilou hong lutpat hun ahihziak in (Genesis 8:21).
KOPPIH ZONNA
koppih bang ahia?
Tuailai toh kisai i taklat khit toh kiton in tun koppih bang hihiam chih leh koppih bangchi zon diing chih i taklang diing. Koppih i zondik a koppih diktak i muhtheihna diing in i zon diing koppih bang hihiam chih theihchet masak a kul hi. I zon diing pen theichianloupi in i thil zon muh ahaksa mahmah diing hi. Pa khat khollak pawt hongtung a inn kong ua atapa pawt diing toh kituak a atapa kiang ah “koi a hoh diingna hia bawi?” chia a dot leh a tapa in “theinailou” chin dawng hi. Huaitak in apa’n “na pawtna diing theinailou na hihleh ong kikphot inla inn a ngaihtuah thak inla na theih chiang in pawt in” chihsan hi. Hiai bang deuh in tampi’n i thilhih diing theichian loupi in nasep kisawm khanak hi. Huai tuh khanmohbok khat ahi. Huaiziak in koppih koi a zong a kuate zong diing, bang chi zon diing chih i theihna diing in i zon diing koppih toh kisai theichian masa phot ni.
Koppih i chih bang ahia chih theihchet louh ziak in tampite’n koppih zongkhial uh a huchi’n a nupa hinkhua uah lohsam uhi. Koppih i chih chiang in zi (wife) hiam pasal (husband) hiam i genna ahi. Ahihleh zi or pasal i chih bang genna or i kua hi uhiam?
Pasalte a din a koppih tuh a zi ahi. Huaiziak in zi tuh apasal (husband) adi’n –
Apasal panpihtu ahi (Genesis 2:18).
Apasal lak a kitahlut diing (Kol. 3:18; Eph. 5:22-24; 1 Tim. 2:11-12; 1 Peter 3:1-2).
A pasal thu bangkim a mangtu ahi (Ephesate 5:24).
Hiai a tung a point thumte et apan in leng gingtu khat in a zi diing in kua a azong diing chih achiang mai hi.
Numeite a di’n a koppih tuh apasal (husband) ahi. Huaiziakin zi a di’n apasal tuh –
Amah ittu ahi (Kolosate 3:19). Pasal in a zi bangchi it diing? Khris in Saptuam it a asik a akipiak bang in (Ephesate 5:25). Amah pumpi a it bang a it diing (Ephesate 5:28-29).
A lutang ahi (Ephesate 5:23; 1 Kor. 11:3).
Zi a diing a apsal a lu ahihleh gingtu numei khat in a lu diing, amah pitu diing leh athuthu a akitahlut theihna diing a akoppih dia a zon diing kua ahi dia le?
KOPPIH BANG CHI ZON DIING?
Mihingte social being a siam i hi. Koppih poimoh mah i hi. Huai dia Patian hon siam i hihziak in (Genesis 2:18; Jeremia 29:5-6). Khristiante leng mihing i hi. Ahihleh koppih i zon chia bang chi zon diing?
Khovelte bang a melhoih leh mit kipaksak lel a zon diing hilou hi.
Khristiante’n koppih i zon diing dan masa tuh khovelte zon bang a zon louh diing. Khovelte’n Samson koppih zondan a in a zong uh. Samson in koppih a bangchi zon a? Samson in koppih neifuh hi’n i ngaihtuah uhia? Aman bangchi’n koppih a zong a? Melhoih, a mit kipaksak in koppih a zong hi (Vaihawmte 14:1-3). Samson koppih zondan tuh “Love at first sight” ahi. A koppih zondan a diklouh ziak mah in a huntak in khem in a om a a zi diing a lawmpa kiang ah piak in a om maimah (Vaihawmte 12:20).
A koppih zonna ah a lohsam hithet hi. Zi in a neikha kei a, buaina thupitak a piangkhiak loh maimah. A koppih dia kham nu leh pa’n sihna a tuak ua, Philistiate lou halsak in a om a, Philistiate mi 1000 in a sihloh hial hi. Samson in koppih toh kisai ana theichian lou hikha diing ahi. Khovelte’n Samson koppih zondan in a zong nak uh. Tu damsung lel en in koppih a zong uhi.
Khristiante’n bel Koppih I chih bang/kua hihiam chih theichian a zon diing ahi.
Koppih i chih bang hiam chih ngaihsun a theichian kawm a koppih zon ngeingei diing ahi. Koppih i chih panpihtu ahihleh Khristian khat in amah panpihtu dia kua zong diing? A ginna kibatpih mah a zonkei leh kua zong ding? Na ginna toh kisai a hon panpihthei diing na zon a na neihken bang chi’n koppih neidik na hithei dia? A lak a kitahlut a bangkim a athuman diing, eimah pumpi it bang a it diing i koppihte ahihleh i ginna kibatpih neikei lehang bang chidan bangkim a athu uh mang a alak ua i kitahlut thei dia?
Tu damsung lel enlou a tangtawn tanpha en a koppih zon diing ahi.
Hiai koppih in nei leng ka leitung hinkhua nuam diing, kipak a nuamsak diing chihtan lel hilou a hiai koppih in nei leng ka tangtawn mun diing nuam diing ahi chih tan et ngeingei diing ahi. Huai hileh huai in kuate zong a kuate zonglou diing chih hon hilh mai diing hi.
Leitung a mipilpen Solomon en mahdih! A koppih zonkhelh ziak in milim mai ah akun maimah (1 Kumpipate 11:1-4). Huaiziak in a Lalgam khen in ahong om hi. Nang leng koppih na zonkhelh leh na lalgam (na innsung) ahon kek diing hi.
KUATE KITEENPIH LOU DIING?
Maksa peuhmah (Matt. 19:9; Mark 10:10)
Neih kibatpihte (Gen. 2:8; Matt 19; Romte 1:26-27).
Pathian neiloute/ gingloute (2 Kor. 6:14-16)
KITENNA TOH KISAI A THUDIK BULPI
(Fundamental facts about marriage)
Koppih zong diingte’n koppih a neihma ua a theih ngeingei diing ua poimoh tuh Kiteenna toh kisai a thudik bulpi ahi (fundamental facts about marriage).
Kitenna Pathian pat ahi (Marriage was instituted by God)
Kiteenna i chih mihingte’n amau adia zangkhai leh hoih diing chih ziak a apathkhiak uh hilou in Pathian pat ahi (Genesis 2:24; Matt. 19:4-9; Eph. 5:22-23).
Kiteenna tuh zahtak/pahtawi (honor) diing ahi – Hebrute 13:4).
Kiteen tuh pasal khat leh numei khat tenkhawmna ahi – Gen. 2:24; 1Kor. 7:2). Bible ah kiteen diing dan a kimukei. Numei khat leh pasal khat nupa dia ahong kithukim ua a hong tenkhop chiang un Pathian in nupa in a sim.
Kiteenna tuh damsung daih ahi – Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:6. Kiteenna hiai damsung kia a diing ahi (Luke 20:27ff). Huaiziak in khat zawsam sihna in a damlai pen a dang nei di’n a phal Himahleh ginna a om mi ahih diing ahi (Romte 7:1-3; 1 Kor. 7:39).
Nih hitalou in pumkhat ahita uh – Gen. 2:24; Matt. 19:5-6).
KITENG DI’N NA UPA HUNTAWK HIA?
(Are You Old Enough to Marry)
Kiteenna toh kisai a dotna poimoh mahmah khat bel “bang hun a zi/pasal nei diing ?” chih ahi. “Pasal amah kikoih dan in a upa a, numei a mel et dungzuii in a upa” (A man is as old as he feels; a women is as old a she looks) chihkhat ana om hi.
Naupang teimahmah khat a sinsaktu’n a upat dan a dot leh, “ka psychological age 12 ahi a, ka moral age 10, ka social age kum 8 ahi a, ka chronological age ahileh hilh in ka omkei chin a dong hi. Huaiziak in zi/pasal nei din na upa huntawk na hiam i chih chiang in na piching huntawkna hiam i chihna ahi. Kiteenna tuh naupanglaite a diing hilou in mi pichingte a diing ahi. Kiteenna tampi a lohsap ziak tuh piching loupi a kiteen ziak ahi deuhpen. I kum phazah banah, i upatna tehna tuamtuam a om hi. Zi/pasal neithei dia mi piching hih tehna chituatuam omtheite –
Kum ah bangzah in na upa a?
(How old are you chronologically?)
Hiai tuh I pian khiak apan I kum zatzah ahi. I gam dan dungzui in zi/pasal nei dia I kiman leh kimanlouh thutuam hitaleh, kum 18 tuh kiten theihna dia kum bikhiah ahi. Hiai zahtak azuih a hoih.
2. Taksa ah bangzah in na upa a?
(How old are you physically?)
Hiai tuh i kumzah toh a kizui mahmah. Kum 18 tan i taksa hiangte a khang tangpi. Kum 24 tan in bel a khang nawnkei.
3. Lungsim ngaihtuahna ah bangzah in na upa a?
(How old are you mentally?)
Kiteng a zi hiam pasal hiam nei a ta-le-nau nei a intum-loutum suang a mohpuaknate lazou diing in na lungsim a piiching huntawkna hiam? Na iQ hilou in inn-le-lou suang diing a lungsim ngaihtuahna a pichinna ahi i gen.
4. Nasep silbawl ah bangzah in na upata a?
(How old are you vocationally?)
Class 12, graduate etc tuh zi leh pasal neihna dia chitna ahipahkei. Sum-le-pai a kimanna tuh kiteng dia manna tehna poimoh khat ahi. Nupa hinkhua sustain theihna dia sep-le-bawl kichian khatbek neih a kul. “Antang nou khat khakbeh lel lechin” chihte zaw atatak a zattheihlouh hi. Ka zi ka ta ka vakzou na diam chih dotna kidot masak ngeingei diing ahi.
THUSITNA
Kiteenna tuh khalam kizopna toh a kiton ngeingei diing ahi (Marriage is necessarily a spiritual relationship). Samson bang in mel kilawmna lel in koppih zong kei ni. Mel kilawmna a hong bei diing (Paunakete 31:30).
Utpeuh koppih nei dia siam kihilou hi. Adam in koppih a poimoh. Himahleh Pathian in thilsiamte lak a khatpeuh toh a kiteng sak kei. Amah toh kituak diing (numei) a bawlsak sese hi (Genesis 2:18). Amah guh bang guh nei, sa bang sa nei toh a kiteng. Ei leng numei khatpeuh, pasal khatpeuh toh koppih a kinei diing kihilou hi. I khalam guh bang guh nei, khalam sa bang sa nei – ginna kibatpih mah toh koppih a kineih diing ahi.
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